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Mark Driscoll – “Sex, a Study of the Good Bits from Song of Solomon”


So, here in the context of how to preach SoS, are some quotes from passages which describe one way to preach the book. I would encourage you to read today's Pulpit post to see why these are wrong intrepretations.


Song of Solomon 2:3

3 "Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest, So is my beloved among the young men. In his shade I took great delight and sat down, And his fruit was sweet to my taste.

The wife performing oral sex on the husband is biblical. God’s men said, Amen. Ladies, your husbands appreciate oral sex. They do. So, serve them, love them well. It’s biblical. Right here. We have a verse. The fruit of her husband is sweet to her taste and she delights to be beneath him.


Jesus Christ commands you to do so,” referring to oral sex.]


Song of Solomon 2:6

6 "Let his left hand be under my head And his right hand embrace me."


And ladies, let me assure you of this. If you think you’re being dirty, he’s pretty happy. [Laughter from audience] Our line is at different place. If the wife says, “Is that dirty?” “No, that’s wonderful.” She says, in verse 6, “His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me.” She’s asking here, in the Hebrew, for manual stimulation of her, probably of her clitoris. It’s a part of the woman’s anatomy that has one function, and that is orgasm. It has no other purpose, and it’s a wonderful gift that God gives a woman. If you’re a man and your married, you don’t know where that is, repent and find it. Very important for you to do. But that’s what she’s asking, that he would hold her, and that he would caress her, and that he would manually stimulate her, that he would masturbate her. She’s asking for that. Women, it is okay to ask for such things. Isn’t this a great book.



Song of Solomon 4:5 "Your two breasts are like two fawns, Twins of a gazelle Which feed among the lilies.

. . . When you walk into the petting zoo, what animal is usually included there? Two fawns, twins of a gazelle. Baby animals, baby deer. What he’s talking about is, your breasts are the petting zoo. And I love to go there and play with them because like two newborn baby deer that are perky, and fun, and happy, and they match, and they’re exciting, and they’re fun to pet, that’s your breasts. Is that true, Gentlemen, that your wife takes her shirt off and that’s the petting zoo?


Song of Solomon 4:12-16 A garden locked is my sister, my bride, A rock garden locked, a spring sealed up. 13 "Your shoots are an orchard of pomegranates With choice fruits, henna with nard plants, 14 Nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon, With all the trees of frankincense, Myrrh and aloes, along with all the finest spices. 15 "You are a garden spring, A well of fresh water, And streams flowing from Lebanon." 16 "Awake, O north wind, And come, wind of the south; Make my garden breathe out fragrance, Let its spices be wafted abroad. May my beloved come into his garden And eat its choice fruits

He explains her vagina as a garden. What a great metaphor. Again, it’s frank but not crass. And he says that, “Your vagina is a garden.” It has wonderful smells and it has wonderful tastes. It’s a garden. . . . He talks about how much he loves her vagina. Many women feel awkward about this. The husband needs to tell the wife, “It’s beautiful. It tastes well. It smells well. You keep yourself well. I enjoy it. It’s a garden to me.” So she says, upon hearing what he thinks of it, verse 16, “ . . . Let my lover come into his garden and taste – there’s the key—his choice fruits!” She invites him to perform oral sex on her, the wife does. How many wives wish their husbands would do this, but the husbands don’t? But the wives don’t ask. Biblically, the wife has the right to ask. . . . And so she invites her husband to perform oral sex on her.

And her vagina, he says, is like a glass of fine wine that’s opened up. You men need to know this, you single men don’t, but you married men need to know that when a woman is ready for lovemaking, like a flower she blooms. It’s beautiful. She opens. And what happens is, the color of her vagina and of her lips they redden, they darken as blood flows into that area, preparing for marital intimacy. And what he says is, as she’s dancing, “Oh, you’ve bloomed.” And it’s like a wonderful glass of wine. It’s that color and it’s that taste.